What’s better than a fantastic sex toy you can always count on to send you straight to heaven? Why, an entire collection of them, of course. With a well-stocked pleasure chest in your corner, keeping things fresh in the bedroom and mixing things up is simple, easy, and fun.
Whether you’re planning a special night with a partner or flying solo for the moment, a well-curated toy collection means there’s always something on hand to suit your mood and tastes. But there’s a fine art to making sure yours is as well-rounded as you’d hope. Here are some things to keep in mind when adding new items in the future.
Do you already have the essentials covered?
If you’re new to toy collecting and still building your collection up, first thing’s first. You need to make sure you’ve got the essentials covered. Although what that means will vary slightly from person to person, most toy collections work best when they include the following:
- An insertable toy that suits your tastes, like a dildo or a rabbit vibrator
- A small, versatile external vibrator such as a magic bullet or vibrating egg
- At least one item that’s a little different – like an anal toy or wearable couple’s vibe
And don’t forget the accessories. Keep a handy spray-on toy cleaner on hand to clean and sanitize your toys on the fly and as needed. A couple of toy-safe lubes are good to keep around, as well, as they’re terrific ways to maximize the sensations you get with toys.
What sensations would you like to explore further?
Everyone’s different as far as what they like in bed. Considering the types of stimulation you already love and shopping for toys that can help you take them further is a great way to personalize a growing toy collection.
Do you or your partner love a little anal action now and then? What about nipple play, bondage, or sight deprivation? Maybe you’re into the kind of blended orgasms you can only get from pinpoint accurate dual stimulation. Whatever the case may be, focus on adding new toys to your repertoire that can help you make the most of what you already love to do.
What boundaries would you like to push a little further?
The great thing about maintaining an entire collection of toys that you add to over time is you can afford to go out on a limb occasionally. So don’t be afraid to try something different every so often. Naturally, there’s no way to guarantee you’ll love something you took a chance on, but being super interested in a specific experience is a good sign that you might.
Start small with a less expensive sex toy version of whatever it is you’re interested in trying. Then, play around with it, and put it through its paces. If you like the experience as much as you hope you will, you can always upgrade to a high-quality option with more settings later on.
How many different materials have you tried?
Although it’s hard to go wrong with a fantastic silicone vibe or other toy, there’s a lot of value to be had in trying different materials on for size sooner or later. Just make sure you know what’s cool to try and what’s best avoided. For health reasons, stick to body-safe options that won’t jeopardize your health.
It’s also essential to make sure you know the benefits and drawbacks of all your choices. For instance, jelly toys can feel amazing, but they’re also more porous, can deteriorate faster, and can harbor microbes or other germs. You’re better off looking at options like glass, stainless steel, and – of course – the full range of silicones out there. Experiment with different picks until you find some favorites.
What are your feelings on size?
If you’ve tried your fair share of insertable toys over the years, then you probably already have a good idea of what you can handle as far as size goes. But if not, don’t make the mistake so many new toy collectors do and assume that bigger is always better. Huge sounds like a dream come true on paper, but it can be intimidating once you get it home and go to play with it for the first time.
If you’re new to insertable toys, choose options that are small to medium in size until you have a better idea of what’s appropriate. Then step things up a little bit at a time. And when shopping online, be sure you double-check dimensions before ordering something new, as images alone can sometimes be deceiving.
A well-rounded toy collection is more than just fun to build. It’s a terrific investment in both your solo sex life and the sex life you share with your partner.