Great sex and communication go hand in hand, without a doubt. So, if you’re not already engaging in regular conversation with your partner about sex, then you really need to start if you’re serious about having hotter sex over the years.
Conversation is the key to ensuring you’re both happy with your sex life. It’s essential when it comes to staying out of ruts or boring routines and keeping dry spells at bay. And when you bring the right topics up for discussion, a simple conversation can be a stellar way to keep things hot and spicy between the sheets, as well.
Not sure where to start? A few naughty questions make terrific conversation starters, as well as create opportunities for you and your partner to get to know each other even better. Here are a few examples to start with.
1. “What’s your dirtiest fantasy?”
Exchanging sexual fantasies with a partner is a wonderful way to build intimacy, show trust, and get your creativity flowing as far as future love sessions. It’s also a great way to get to know each other a bit better on a sexual level.
Consider turning a question like this into a fantasy exchange between the two of you. Create a list of any ideas both of you like the sounds of. Then consult it whenever you’re in the mood to try something new or for one of you to surprise the other with a naughty treat.
2. “What’s your favorite type of porn?”
As with pet sexual fantasies, a person’s taste in porn can tell you a lot about what gets them going. Partaking in a bit of porn is something nearly everyone does at least occasionally, but unlike with fantasies, they rarely share the details of what they’re into in this regard.
Encouraging each other to open up about porn preferences is an easy way to get a dialogue going about turn-ons, turn-offs, fetishes, and more – all great topics couples should really be talking about. For even hotter sex you may even want to talk about watching some porn together sometime.
3. “If you had to give me an orgasm right now, how would you do it?”
Naturally, you probably already have a pretty good idea of what your partner most enjoys doing to you in bed. But unless you’re both already very vocal about your sex life, you probably haven’t had the pleasure of hearing your partner describe it in plain English.
It’s seriously sexy to listen to someone you love talk about their favorite way to make love to you, as well as describe why they enjoy it so much. And, of course, talking about it is the perfect way to segue into doing it.
4. “Is there a sex toy you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t yet?”
If you’re like many couples, you’ve likely already at least experimented with a toy or two. One or both of you may own a toy or two for your own private, personal use. You may even have brought one into the bedroom before, just to inspire hotter sex when you’re in the mood for something different.
One or both of you has almost certainly entertained the thought of trying a very different sex toy on for size, and a direct question gives that person the ideal excuse to bring it up for consideration. Consider scheduling a joint shopping trip soon or signing up for a toy-themed subscription box from Seductive Pleasure Box to start exploring some options.
5. “Which of the times we’ve made love was the hottest for you?”
Everyone has sexual memories with their partner that they enjoy looking back on from time to time – times that were especially hot, passionate, or unusual in some way. Your partner is no different in that regard, and you’d no doubt like to hear which encounters made their personal hits list.
So why not just ask them? Then return the favor by confessing which love sessions you can’t stop thinking about. Not only will you get to enjoy the rush that comes with knowing for sure that your lover fantasizes about times you’ve been together, but you’ve officially got permission to organize round two.
6. “If you could get me to do anything right now, what would it be?”
Although receiving is literally all it’s cracked up to be when it comes to sex, giving can be a serious turn-on, as well – especially when you know the recipient is totally and completely lost in what’s happening.
So, try giving your partner full permission to have it their way sometime. Ask them to describe every detail of what they’d like you to do, and then see how closely you can follow directions. They may even offer to return the favor. Try it and see what type of naughty questions inspire hotter sex for you and your lover!