Orgasms are a lot like pizzas. Even the run-of-the-mill ones are still pretty good, but that hardly means the genuinely epic ones aren’t worth chasing. This is especially the case for women. Yes, it generally takes a little more finesse and know-how to achieve truly incredible female orgasms with consistency, but it’s well worthwhile for all parties involved.
That said, incredible orgasms are a fine art. And like any art, it’s possible to become an expert with enough practice. Here are some tried and true tips to get you started in the right direction. You’ll be having world-changing orgasms a lot more often before you know it.
1. Don’t skip your Kegels.
Since sex is a physical activity all the way, your fitness level has a direct effect on how much you’ll get out of it. So, if you’ve been looking for just the right motivation to hit the gym more often, your sex life is as good a reason as any. Staying fit helps build stamina, strength, flexibility, and self-esteem – all power assets that can take sex from good to great.
But no sex-positive workout can possibly be considered complete without Kegels. Your pelvic floor muscles are the most important muscles most women forget to work out, but doing so can work wonders for your sexual response. Not only will you feel tighter to your partner, but your orgasms will become noticeably more intense, as well.
2. Masturbate more often.
Many people think of masturbation as a lackluster substitute for sex with a partner, but they really shouldn’t. Yes, a little self-service is a great way to blow off some sexual steam when your partner’s out of town or otherwise not available, but it can also be the key to a better sex life overall, as well.
Think of your solo sessions as your personal opportunity to better get to know your body without pressure, distraction, or fear of judgment. You can take your time. You can explore, experiment, and discover the exact pressure, friction, and sensation types your body needs to have the kind of orgasms you’re after. Then you can take your newfound knowledge into the bedroom with your partner anytime you like.
3. Get comfortable being a little selfish.
Wanting to please your partner is a commendable thing, and it can feel phenomenal to give your partner the time of their life in bed. But it’s important not to get so wrapped up in your partner’s pleasure that you forget about your own. Your pleasure matters, too – not just to you, but to your partner – and the best way to remember that is to be a little selfish a bit more often.
Try getting used to it outside the bedroom first. Learn to say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no. When someone offers to help you, do you a favor, or otherwise do something nice for you, accept without guilt. Ask for help, support, or pleasure when you need it or want it, too, both in and out of the bedroom. You might be surprised just how much better your orgasms become.
4. Play with (and share) toys.
If you’ve never used a sex toy before, you really owe it to yourself to give one or more of them a try sometime soon, especially if you’re serious about making regular epic orgasms a part of your intimate life. Rabbit vibrators take a lot of the guesswork out of reaching orgasm in the first place, and just about any toy will help you get better acquainted with your body’s sweet spots.
And you don’t have to keep your toys to yourself unless you want to. Adding a toy to your repertoire as a couple takes some of the pressure off by making orgasms more robust and easier to reach for both people. It makes exploring together a lot more fun, too.
5. Switch things up often.
Novelty and surprise are essential elements for any satisfying sex life, so even small, simple changes can lead to more pleasure and bigger, better, more satisfying orgasms. Purposefully break your routine by switching positions, trying new locations, or exploring a pet fantasy or two.
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Your body has an incredible potential to experience and appreciate pleasure, and all you need to unlock it is a little know-how and a sense of adventure. So, start exploring the possibilities today! You might be surprised just how sweet life becomes once quality orgasms become a regular thing.