The days when women treated their precious vibrators like dirty little secrets are long over with. Now, it’s all the rage to be sexually confident and proudly take responsibility for your own pleasure. In fact, most modern women have either owned a vibrator before or have thought very seriously about getting one, whether they talk about it openly.
Likewise, most men understand their female partners either currently own a vibrator or have in the past. And many of those men are OK with that fact, but that hardly means they don’t have a few things they’d love to know if they could only figure out how to ask. Here are a few examples.
1. Vibrator vs. Penis: Which Is Better?
Guys are only human, after all, so they wonder about things like this – especially if they know for a fact that their special lady uses a vibrator regularly. Even the most confident guy harbors fears about not satisfying his partner fully, so it’s only natural to feel a little intimidated by something that’s always ready to rock and roll, day or night.
So, if you know this is something your man worries about, don’t be afraid to set him straight gently. Explain to him that as fun as a vibrator can be, there’s no substitute for deep intimacy with a flesh-and-blood partner. After all, owning a pocket pussy wouldn’t ever make him tired of person-to-person sex, right? Like all sex toys, vibrators are fun to play with once in a while but not comparable to real people.
2. What It’s Really Like to Own One
These days, sex toys are no longer considered strictly for women. More and more men are catching on to the fact that male-focused options like Fleshlights, strokers, penis rings, and other goodies can be game-changers for them, too. But not every guy has personally taken the plunge into sex toy ownership yet, so those who haven’t are bound to be curious.
Naturally, you know owning a vibrator is no big deal. It’s not something you think about all day long. And while you probably wouldn’t open up a discussion about your vibrator with your grandmother or anything, you don’t see it as a dirty secret, either. It’s just part of your life, like so many other things you own and enjoy using from time to time.
3. Whether You Use It Every Time
It goes pretty much without saying that men are fascinated with the logistics of how women masturbate, so your guy almost certainly wonders about your solo session from time to time. And if he also knows you own a vibrator, he’s probably got questions about how often it’s part of the mix. For example, do you use it every time? And when you do use it, do you use it the same way every time?
Of course, you know that everyone’s different in this regard. Some women consider their vibrators to be solo time staples, while others are happy reaching for theirs only when they want to do things a little differently. Some women maintain entire collections of sex toys so that there’s one for every possible mood, while others are cool with having one go-to for every occasion. At the end of the day, what’s on the menu when it’s self-service time depends greatly on the person’s mood.
4. Whether You’d Consider Including Him Sometime
Today’s men are relatively open-minded about sex and female masturbation, so they’re not entirely out of the loop when it comes to vibrators. And yes, if your guy knows for sure you have a vibrator, he’s probably spent a fair amount of time wondering about the logistics of your relationship with it. He’s probably also often wondered what it would be like to be included in your fun.
If you think that might be the case for your man, why not treat him to a spot in the middle of the action sometime? There are so many possibilities to consider. For instance, you could use your vibrator as a teaching tool and show him exactly how you like to use it. Treat him to a spicy X-rated show or invite him to take the reins himself if he’s in the mood.
Vibrators make incredible additions to foreplay and partnered sex, as well. Try using yours to stimulate various parts of his body (with his permission, of course) or wedge it between the two of you while you make love sometime. Not only will it make sex extra hot, but it will take some of the guesswork out of orgasm for both of you.
In other words, vibrators are far less mysterious in practice than they might be in a man’s imagination, but that doesn’t make them any less worthwhile. So, consider satisfying your partner’s curiosity and giving him a crash course in world-class vibrator use. You might both wind up glad you did.
