Although sex toys are a must for swinging singles who want more out of their solo sessions, don’t make the mistake of thinking you have to retire your beloved rabbit vibe or Fleshlight once you get into a relationship. With the right partner along for the ride, you can get even more out of your favorite toys than you did before.
Toys can open a couple up to a whole new wealth of possibilities when it comes to pleasure and satisfaction. They can introduce you to brand new sensations you couldn’t experience any other way. They can bring the two of you closer together and make you better communicators. They can help you keep your sex life smoking hot, as well. Here are some tips for getting the most out of using them together.
1. Don’t leave the lube out of the equation.
So many people make the mistake of thinking lube is strictly something to reach for when Mother Nature isn’t cooperating, and they’re doing themselves a real disservice. A little lube is a wonderful way to enhance any type of play, whether it’s explicitly needed or not, and this includes anything you want to do that includes toys.
Just make certain that the lube you choose is compatible with your toys first. For instance, silicone-based lubes can be incredible if you’re strictly planning on skin-to-skin play. However, it can ruin the integrity of a condom or your sex toys. So, when in doubt, stick to water-based lubes. They’re always a perfect fit.
2. Start slow and take things from there.
If one of you is more experienced with toys than the other, it can take some time for the less experienced person to get used to the idea, even if they’re also really into it. So start slow and take your time. If you already own some toys, consider introducing your partner to each one. Offer to let them watch you use one on yourself. If they like what they see, hand the reins over to them for a while and enjoy.
Once the ice is broken, you can start exploring some new territory. First, try using a simple, non-threatening toy like a magic bullet or a vibrating wand to stimulate your partner and let them see how it feels. Then, you can segue into using the toy on each other while you make love or during foreplay.
3. Try a toy designed especially for couples.
Although most sex toys are relatively easy to integrate into couples’ play, you really owe it to yourselves to give a toy designed specifically for couples a try. They can be absolute game-changers, especially if you’re most interested in toys to elevate the sex you’re already having together.
A vibrating penis ring is a terrific way for both of you to get a lot more out of intercourse. So are wearable horseshoe-shaped vibrators. There are toys out there that come equipped with remote controls or smartphone app compatibility to give you even more ways to get creative, as well. Don’t be afraid to let your imagination run a little wild.
4. Go shopping for new toys as a team.
Although there’s nothing wrong with picking up a new toy on your own and then surprising your partner with it, shopping for toys together can be a great bonding experience in more ways than one. To begin with, it gets a dialogue flowing between the two of you about your sex life, your turn-ons, your fantasies, and so much more.
Plus, the experience of browsing for new toys can be incredibly hot. You get to take turns pointing out things you like to one another and talking about how you’d like to use them. And if you’re ordering online, you get to enjoy the sweet anticipation of waiting for your order to arrive so you can get down to business.
5. Get creative with how you play.
Toys bring a lot of possibility to the table beyond the obvious, so don’t be afraid to roll with new ideas that sound like they’d be a lot of fun. For instance, mutual masturbation can be super-hot and informative, so try using your toys separately and together sometime. Waterproof toys can be terrific ways to jazz up your morning shower or make a shared evening bath even more intimate. Small, discreet toys can even make getting naughty in public a little more fun.
So don’t be afraid to explore the possibilities together because toys are more than just a great way to elevate an orgasm. They can keep your relationship spicy, make sexual ruts a thing of the past, and keep you on your toes creatively, as well. Try a few on for size yourself and find out firsthand!